4.06.2012

To Linky Party or Not to Linky Party….

… that is the question I have been asking myself lately.

I love having my linky party because I love to see what you have been working on and all the great projects around blogland – but you know what? If I were being totally honest I would say “actually I already know all the great projects you have been working on because when I linked up to the awesome party at X, Y and Z – I saw that you did too!!”

And that makes me wonder if my linky party is worth it.

When I started my linky parties 21 weeks ago – I had NO idea how many linky parties there were. I knew there were a few but I never imagined all the invites and comments asking me to link up to YOUR parties that would come my way and then I realized just how many there were out there --- like HUNDREDS!! 

Then recently I read a Facebook thread about linky parties and that really got me to thinking --- one of the comments said – what blogland DOESN’T need is another linky party.  No I didn’t take the comment personally but since it was something that had been weighing on my mind it really got me to thinking more about this party.

I like to link up – love to link up actually and I have a few favorite places to do so – when I link up, I try and be a good linker and go around a comment on a few other projects – Isn’t that why we link up anyway? We want people to see our projects and comment!!

At the same time I have been thinking about all of this – I think about my family too. My husband works crazy hours and sometimes I don’t see him for a few days (no, he doesn’t work out of town) so I have to devote ALL my time to my children. I have a 2 year old and 1 year old. Yes, I am super busy!! So I start to wonder about the saying “Something’s Gotta Give” and what that should be in my life.

My weekly party is small – the parties I link too are large – I try and be a good participant and comment on other projects that link up to the bigger parties – and try to check out every link that comes to mine too – and sometimes I fail. I used to comment on every. single. link that linked up to my party and now I just cannot – and then the GUILT sets in…. I hate feeling guilty over something like that.

So then I ask myself:

Do I craft today or comment today?
Do I spend time creating quality posts my readers will love?
Or do I spend time commenting on their posts?
Am I really watching “Cars” for the 4th time today?
Why are my kids already in their jammies Oh yeah – we never got dressed today!?
Do I browse blogs or create something new?

What do you guys think? Do you enjoy linking up here? Do you link up here? Would you like to just see some Friday features like I used to do without the party? Please, please leave your comments and let me know what you think – I am so up in the air about all of this your comments would really help me!!

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16 comments:

Jessica Kielman said...

I have been thinking about the same exact thing, and decided to stop my party. I only started mine, because I thought since everyone else was doing one, maybe I should. I actually felt a little guilty about linking my projects to so many parties and not offering one in return. It is a ton of work, though. I like you have a husband who works a lot right now, two kids with activities, and love to craft. I have decided to let my party go, because I would rather spend my time creating and sharing. I was feeling guilty about not getting back to everyone as well, and decided it's just not my favorite thing. I may do a special link party some time just for fun...you know, like a link up your summer crafts kind of thing...maybe with some fellow bloggers. I just did something like that with some other girls for Ginger Snap Crafts anniversary, and it was fun...not overwhelming at all! I'd love to hear what you think!


Jessica @ Mom 4 Real

Steph @ Crafting in the Rain said...

So, I'm a low-key blogger (to me that means I'm on my own schedule, I don't have sponsors or sponsored posts yet)...but I still blog very regularly, constantly link up to parties and try to leave lots of nice comments, both on blogs that linked up and blogs I follow.

But you're right, it takes a lot of time. And especially for me, since blogging is my hobby and not a job at all, I don't want blogging to become a source of guilt for me--either because I think I should be doing more with my blog, or because I should be doing more with my family...

I'm not going to tell you if you should keep doing your party or not. You'll have to decide. But in the nicest way possible, can I say that it won't be missed? (gah, there is no nice sounding way to say that is there??) But like you said, there's a plethora of linky parties out there, and so there are's still plenty of access. And I'm going to go out on a limb and bet that you won't lose any followers/subscribers by stopping the party if you choose.

So, there's my novel that I didn't intend on writing. I hope you got the positive vibe I'm trying to get across--and good luck with whatever you end up doing!!

Grandma Cantrell said...

I follow several blogs, although the only blog I have myself is basically for my own interests - kind of a journal without the personal private stuff. I don't spend much time reviewing the linky parties - a quick glance is enough. It is not because the links are not good ones, it is just that I don't have the time to review each one in depth.

I guess that is a round about way of saying that it doesn't have to all be about linky parties. Why don't you decide what it is you LIKE to do and then just do that? There are so many blogs now and so many different people, often saying and doing much the same thing. I like things that are a unique. Let your own light shine. If that is with linky parties, great. But if not, then go for whatever that is.

I enjoy your blog, by the way. You do a good job.

April said...

I love link parties and I link up to several throughout the week, but you are right-it seems everyone has one! I set a limit to how many I link to each day and I do not link to a blog party unless I follow and love the blog. So, I ignore the invites. That may sound harsh, but there's too little time in life to feel guilty over someone I don't even know-I have a hard enough struggle being a people pleaser with people I do know!

I can't tell you whether to keep your party or not, but whatever you decide, don't feel guilty!

Some hopefully helpful feedback: I DO like that your party is on Fridays-there doesn't seem to be as many on Fridays. And small doesn't mean meaningless! Sometimes the smaller parties are easier to go through and navigate other people's projects. But, if the party is not giving YOU life and makes you hate blogging or feel enslaved to the blog party, then perhaps it's best to scrap it.

I don't have a blog party, but I like to feature my favorite projects I saw throughout the week-whether it be from other parties or bloggers I follow or something I come across. You could still do that-I don't know about everyone else, but I always read those posts on other blogs!

How to Nest for Less said...

Urgh, I know what you mean with this post! I struggled a long time about starting my own party. I would see these other bloggers with their parties and 300+ link ups and think "wow, now they have some followers!!". Plus it seemed like a right of passage.

I do feel that too many bloggers start having linky parties too early in their careers. I made sure I had a strong fan base before starting. I'm only in my 8th week right now and I'm up to 167 links for this week's party. It would be hard to stop at this point though. I feel like some people really look forward to linking up to my site (maybe cause they don't follow 300 different bloggers?).

THis is definitely a decision you need to make yourself! Go with your gut. If you feel stressed about it, don't do it!! Make sure your family comes first :)

Kaysi @ Keeping it Simple said...

Me and you are on the same boat!!! All of those questions I have asked myself lately too!

Amy C said...

I think if you have a link party, people will link to it, and when I link up, I don't expect to have a comment back from the host of the party. It's nice when I get one, but I know everyone is busy, and commenting is time consuming. I don't do a link party on my blog, but I find myself asking questions like "do I create today, or read blogs?, etc" similar to your questions. Blogging is fun, but it is very time consuming, and being a mom is more important. That is something that has been on my mind a lot lately, and things on my blog have slowed way down because of it. That's my two cents. :)
Amy @ The Happy Scraps

Amanda Joy {Joy in the Jumble} said...

I have had a link party for the past 12 weeks. Sometimes I wonder what I got myself into... but I like having it run Friday through Sunday. I rarely blog on the weekends... it's the only time I am at home, not at work.

I like having the link party right now, because I like featuring crafts and such from blogs that are just starting out... to ones that have over a 1,000 followers. Blogs helped me out in the beginning, and I like doing that for others now.
I can't comment on everyone's link or comment... especially if they still don't have their email hooked up.

I can't expect that I will get a ton of followers from my blog because of the linky party, though I try and follow the blog of everyone I link up to regularly.

Blogging changes and evolves... though it is getting harder to find breakout crafts and recipes to create; so I just make pretty things I enjoy, and share it on my blog.

Those are my reasons for doing the link party... but whose to say that I will feel the same way in 10 weeks when I hit my 22nd week.

You do what you want own it and don't look back... I will still be here even if you don't have a link party anymore:)

Leanne said...

Ugh! I know what you mean. I have been trying to decide for a couple of months now to continue my party or not. I don't think it will be missed, but I might miss it. I don't comment on every link but I do check them all out and I love featuring my favorites. Obviously I still don't know what to do. I'd love to know what you decide.

Sewandthecity said...

Hi, I came to link up and read your post. I can understand how busy you are, torn between family and the desire to blog/comment/create/link up or host link parties...there should be 48h in the day. Listen to your gut feeling…whatever you decide it would be lovely to see your Friday features as it is sure to make somebody’s day. Have a lovely Easter!

Shantalle@lifestylesofthestayathomemom.com said...

Hey Amanda, I love your link party and I'm a weekly poster, however, family is the most important thing and if it is wearing you too thin, I think you know what the answer is. I will miss the link party but I shall stick around regardless!

Karen At Home said...

I read the same article and understand how you feel. It's true, it seems everyone has a linky party these days, however, it's your blog to host one! If you enjoy it, we will come and party with you! :)

Laura at Ms. Smartie Pants said...

I have been reading the same post you refer to and while I don't think one person should tell another how to have fun I do wonder how you people who host them have lives. I've gotta say I wish every host would comment but I understand that these have gotten out of hand and your family must come first, you didn't sign this thing in blood, if it's not working for you quit, you can have one once a month or quarter or whenever you have the desire, or not at all. You gotta do what works for you all first!

Charlene@APinchofJoy said...

Only you can decide if hosting is worth it to you. The fact that you are questioning it, just might be an indication that it's not. I read a post recently that said "sometimes the best way to be a leader is to be a follower." Not everybody has to be or do everything. If you want to focus time on posts -- do that. If you have a clear reason why a linky party will advance your blog, business or life -- then continue. If not -- stop!! :-)

Maureen Hayes said...

Hi! I am not currently blogging, although I have in the past. I completely feel your pain. There are only so many hours in a day and it becomes an all consuming task to try to comment on every persons blog or project or link. I think you need to decide what is best for you and not worry what others think. You know what your family needs and what time you have and how you need to spend it. If people think that is bad blog manners, than you can't worry about it or feel guilty.

I plan to get back into blogging shortly and this is an issues I plan to deal with ahead of time for the same reasons you are struggling with it now.

I love your blog and will come and read your posts and how-to's happily whether you host linky parties or not.

Hope you had a restful Easter.

yogamama said...

I'm at the other end. I just started a link party yesterday. I haven't gotten any response (probably I did it too early), but I made mine really specific - I only want links about learning a second language or about another culture. If I get people contributing it will be worth it to me because I really want to do those specific activities with my daughter and I won't have to hunt around blogs to find good ones. I've noticed most parties seem extremely broad anything goes. I think it loses value for the reader.

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